Flowers Language

Flowers have a language of their own, a bright
particular language, that is fun to explore.

Almost all women like flowers. They like to
receive many flowers even if is her birthday or
an anniversary or for no reason at all. The woman
consider that it doesn’t really have to be a
special day to bring her flowers, it should
happen in any simple day in order to show your
feelings for her.

If you didn’t bring her flowers for a long time,
she might think that you have no feelings any
more for her.

If you have already a girlfriend and you care
about her you should show your feelings. If you
decided to do this by bringing her flowers, you
have a large variety to choose from. Every kind
of flower has a particular language, all of them
express something. So, according to your feelings
for her and what you want to show her, choose the
flower which it represents you.

For example, ROSES are most use because have a
lot of senses. Every color means something else:
* red – imply passionate, romantic love
* white – express innocence, purity, secrecy,
virtue and chastity
* yellow – friendship or devotion, a dying love,
platonic love, and also means jealousy and
* blue – mystery, attaining the impossible
* orange – desire, passion
* burgundy – beauty
* pink – a lesser affection, grace
* light pink – admiration, sympathy
* dark pink – gratitude
* red and yellow – joy, happiness, excitement
* red and white – unity

Another beautiful and used flower is LILY:
* imperial one -express majesty
* day lily – means coquetry
* white – youthful innocence, purity
* yellow – gaiety, falsehood
* water lily – purity of heart

If you want to show her your thoughts, bring her
* pink – I’m longing for you
* red – you’re in flame in my heart
* white – you’re adorable

In addition, TULIPS may help you in expressing
your thoughts and feelings:
* red – declaration of love, show trust
* variegated – compliments, beautiful eyes
* yellow – there’s sunshine in your smile

IRIS is named after the Messenger of the Gods in
Greek mythology
* represents a message being sent, faith, hope,
wisdom and valor, compliments

ORCHID are very beautiful and refinement flowers:
* means – love, beauty, compliments like
beautiful lady

If you are at the beginning of your relationship,
you may give her LILAC:
* purple one – express the fist emotion of love
* white – youthful innocence, purity

Use JASMINES to express amiability:
* yellow – grace and elegance
* Spanish – sensuality

LOTUS means eloquence:
* lotus flower – estranged love

For showing modesty buy VIOLET:
* blue – faithfulness, watchfulness

SUNFLOWERS – mean either haughtiness or respect

MAGNOLIA – express love of the nature, nobility
* swamp magnolia – perseverance

NARCISSUS – compliments as if you are so sweet,
and egotism

AMBROSIA – tells her that her love is reciprocated

DAISY – imply purity, innocence, loyal love

IVY – use this for expressing your fidelity

PANSY – means thoughts

Therefore, using flowers is an easy way to
express your feelings and it is at your choice
which flowers represent you better and your

Flirting with Married Women

Flirting is a basic instinct, part of a human
nature. It is a universal and essential aspect of
human interaction. We see flirting as a fun thing;
a man flirts with a woman in order to attract
her, to ask her on a date.

There are two reasons why people flirt. Guys
which are flirting for fun do this because they
might seen a beautiful woman and flirt with her,
in order to meet her better, to have fun with her,
but not to start a relationship. The others,
which are flirting with intent, are more
selective about their choice, and want to meet
someone for a possible relationship.

The best places to flirt are parties, bars, clubs,
disco, and at the workplace. The first key to
successful flirting is not an ability to show off
and impress, but the knack of conveying that you
like someone.

However, you are single and you decided to go to
pick up some girls. You dressed up to impress,
smell good and start to flirt with a beautiful
woman from the club you are. After you use non
verbal flirting like body language, eye contact,
which indicates intense emotion, or gestures
which can signal interest, attraction and
invitation, you see that the beautiful woman is
responding you with a big smile and starts a
conversation with you.

After you compliment her and make her feel
special with you, she tells you that she is
married. Is this a big problem for you? If not,
if you want to approach her anyway you have to
compliment her, show interest about her, and be
sincere about it. Jerks hit all the time on
married women. That is why you have to show her
that she is interesting to you.

Married and flirting do not mix well. However,
many people do not consider this wrong as far as
it is just for fun. Flirting is like a game but
sometimes when you return the flirt things go a
little further. Often flirting is spontaneous, it
just happens as a normal response to somebody you
find appealing.

Dealing with married woman is very different from
women that are dating and single; there is a huge
amount of stigma applied by family, friends,
society, in order to try to keep married people

Married women are usually looking to find someone
with whom to talk about their problems, someone
like a friend to understand them. If she really
wants to get into an extra- conjugal relationship
means that she has problems in her marriage, she
is bored of her husband, or she has a husband
that travels a lot and that is why she feels

That is why she might be looking for someone to
offer her what her husband cannot. She is looking
for attention, love, understanding. She wants to
get much attention, time and affection as
possible without having to give up anything, so
you will be in her eyes just a friend. You should
tell her from the beginning that you will give
her all your attention if she would give you what
you want from her.

Usually married woman flirt, kiss and play guys
all the time but without any intention of taking
it further. If it happens to get with her in bed,
remember that a woman who is willing to cheat is
looking for excitement, drama. However, watch out
not to become her toy.

There are married women that need to see if
people are still interest in them. Therefore,
they begin to flirt to find out if they are still
attractive; they lose this feeling because their
husbands do not make them feel attractive anymore.

There are people who consider that flirting with
married people is harmless. Therefore, it is at
your choice if you really want to flirt with a
married woman and if you can handle it.

Dating Tips for the Timid

There are some timid, shy people around which have difficulties to make an open chat with new singles, they typically need additional time to adjust to the situation. An uncomplicated convenient answer for them might be to go out on a first date to the movies hence to get used to the presence of the new date, without the obligation to talk. When you come out, you might talk about the movie you Just both watched.

An additional notion, if you’re shy about making a chat, is to ask your date on herself. It’ll serve to show that you’re interested in learning about her, as well as remove part of the pressure of talking, off you, until you’re more comfort. By making them do the to talk you may feel less stressed and eventually you will relax adequatly to talk about yourself.

Last point, take into account that Most humans love to talk mainly all about their life, actually, what they would like most is someone that would hear them attentively, therefore if you are a good listener you will find A lot of people feel most at ease with you.

Remember, you should do anythging you can to put your shyness in the corner, otherwise it will put you in the corner…

Dating Tips and Seduction

Some guys will never become great with women.


You might think I’ve lost my mind, but it’s true.

A lot of guys just won’t get it.

And it’s not because they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

In fact, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

“How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?”

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. You will probably never hear what I’m about to say from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt. Matt’s a good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

“Vin, why don’t you help him!?”

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

I’ve already said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don’t like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they’ll acceptable it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It’s not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean directly telling a girl “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants.” That’s going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.

Dating Tips: Shaping a Woman’s Behavior

I’d like to introduce a concept called SHAPING.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a STRONG precedent of behavior in a woman.

Quick Question >>>

Have you ever been in a situation with a woman, and she talked about how she LOVED when her boyfriend did something very specific?

Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps DO THE SAME EXACT THING?


Have you ever been with a woman, and she asked you if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

Of course… we’ve all been there.

What’s important however is not what the outcome was in those situations, but only to be AWARE of the fact that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way…

Whether she knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN’T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing…

People do it to each other all the time.

But most of the time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT aligned with your desired outcome.

And that’s what we want to change STARTING RIGHT NOW.

There are a number of different ways you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with women.

And I’ve split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don’t get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping ALONE.

Right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to incorporate them into your interactions.

So let’s look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn’t start a conversation with a woman with the question “Do you consider yourself to be independent?”… but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to employ RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It’s a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like “What was the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?” (which is a screening question) You might say something like “Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life.”

Because you are JUSTIFYING your statement with a truism (it’s hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she’s committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we’re getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are VERY devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It’s funny actually – my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to discover that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also – had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the women I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea behind this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

“One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month’s copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit.”

The beauty of that is, it doesn’t even have to be true!

(I’m not going to make a moral decision for you here, I’m sure that you’re more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that – if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior – drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let’s say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don’t like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control…

You could say:

“Wow, you’re so much fun! and so-free spirited. It’s cool you do things you really want to do, and don’t rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires.”

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior
in the future.

By selecting the ASPECT of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she’ll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn’t go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration i.e. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her ‘good’ behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as “good” behavior from a woman, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE AFTER.

Hint: It should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, and NEVER material or monetary. Violating this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Be good, and use these techniques with care.

Dating Myths for Men

To a Man Who Wants To Attract More Women and Get More Dates — But Can’t
Get Started –

First – Learn the Truth About These Myths!

How Often Do You Find Yourself Saying: “I Wish I Knew How To attract the ladies and get more dates”?
If you’re like most of the guys I know, it’s often. More often than you want to admit.

We go out on “dates” with women, hoping that if we PROVE ourselves to them in some way, they’ll be interested in us and attracted to us. And time after time that just never happens. The date ends with a hug or a quick peck on the cheek, as she tells you, “I had a real nice time.”

If you’ve been put on the defense in this dance of romance, you can never really stop worrying, and your attitude will communicate things to a woman that will ultimately drive her away.

What I want to do is take a few minutes here and destroy some myths about women and men and get you started on the right path.

Let’s start right away with:

MYTH 1) Women want what they say they want.

It’s a shame we have to cover this one, but it bears repeating. All you have to do is see the apparent contradiction between what women SAY and what they DO and you’ll understand that they are not the same.

Women have an ideal picture of “romance” programmed into their heads as little girls, primarily from bad fairy tales they read. Then they moved up to the “bodice ripping” romance books. Yes, those cheezy ones you see on bookstore shelves.

Women (and men) don’t understand that they respond to definite behaviors much more than others, and they are behaviors that conform to simple rules. They’d be ashamed to admit them, but they are true.

And the good news for guys is that they can be learned. They’re part of you already; you just have to learn how to demonstrate them.

MYTH 2) Women are hard to understand.

This is a gross example of laziness . Women are extremely EASY to understand. The reason most guys say those cliche phrases like: “Women! Who can understand them.” Or other jokes to that effect is because men don’t think the way women do about certain things. They think emotionally, while you think LOGICALLY.

All it takes is for you to learn how to understand their way of thinking to understand them. You don’t have to BE a pet hamster to understand that he just loves chewing and running on that wheel in his cage. So you give him things to chew on, and give him a nice wheel.

Ba-da-bing. You just made Mr. Hamster happy.

But when it comes to women, guys want them to behave and think like GUYS. And when they discover that they don’t, they get all mad about it instead of learning how women actually think.

Ask yourself this: Are you mad at the weather when it rains? Or do you just figure out how an umbrella works so you can stay dry?

One you can control, the other you can’t.

One belief will leave you CONSTANTLY frustrated and angry. The other will put you back in control. Remember: It’s not what happens to you that’s important, it’s how you RESPOND to what happens to you.

MYTH 3) Right this minute you have all the skills you ever will with women. (Or, you can’t improve your skills beyond where you are right now.)

This one is the belief that follows right after the last myth. Men give up trying to figure out why a woman behaved a certain way, figuring that it’s easier to just run around saying, “Women! Who understands them?” Just like everybody else.

Who could blame us for feeling this way? Guys want a very UNcomplicated lifestyle. We don’t like hassles and drama. (Whereas women seem to feed off this energy.)

The truth is that your skill with women can ONLY increase from here, unless you’re in a rock band or you’re a gorgeous movie star where women are handed to you on a plate.

But make no mistakes – you don’t have to be a rock singer or a movie star to get women interested in you.

All it takes is getting the right information to put you on the right track.

MYTH 4) Women who are attractive are more important and their opinion means more than regular women.

Now, before you take that the wrong way, let me clarify. A guy will tend to treat a good-looking women as if she is a precious commodity, and that she is more valuable than himself.

We live in a society (and a world) that is completely hung up on appearances. We love beauty.

We actually WORSHIP it.

Look at the covers of magazines. Look at actors on television and in the movies. Look at our pop music stars. (Interesting that there are no ‘average’ looking people making good music, huh?) We pay billions and billions of dollars on our vanity. Hair
coloring, makeup, cosmetics, you-name-it.

There is a well-documented psychological fact that we tend to attribute more positive beliefs and attitudes to people who are attractive. We respect them more. We tend to believe that they are more talented and capable because of their appearance.

“Average” people don’t get the same kind of favorable treatment. As we all know, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Remember that hot women are no different than any other woman, other than the fact that she lucked out in the genetic lottery.

She’s probably been spoiled and unchallenged her whole life because of her looks, which actually makes her EASIER to get than most other women.

MYTH 5) You need to convince, beg, or trick women into getting them to sleep with you.

Oh, dear. This one is where so many good guys go wrong.

Women want to do the nasty just as much as guys do. In fact, they get even more pleasure than we do, so they enjoy it more. The only difference is that women have better control over their desire than guys do. This stems from a time when women had to be VERY careful who she mated with, because she had to be sure she knew he was worth gambling her children’s future – and her own – with. If he couldn’t provide for her, she’d be in an incredibly difficult position.

Probably even fatal.

So she had to choose well. She learned how to read a guy’s status and standing by his actions. (Never his words. Anyone can SAY anything.)

The good news to this evolutionary programming is that it’s not hard to understand, and it’s easy to see through the Matrix and understand how to make it work FOR you. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors you’ve been hiding for so long.

MYTH 6) You have to be rich, famous, a jerk, or good looking to attract hot women – OR – You can’t be a nice guy and get women.


Women aren’t actually attracted to jerks because of their abusive behavior. Or to famous people because of their fame. Or rich guys because of their wealth.

They’re attracted to the potential feelings that these guys can give them.

Jerks give her a CHALLENGE.

Fame is attractive because of the POWER.

Wealth is attractive because of the SECURITY, COMFORT, and POWER.

And all of them are really just indicators about the guy that wields them.

It’s easy to assume because a guy is wealthy, he can keep her in a way that she would find comfortable.

It’s easy to assume that because a guy has fame, he also has the wealth. And he wouldn’t be famous unless a large number of people MADE him popular, right? This is called “social proof,” which I cover in my e-books and audio.

Again, the good news is that these are external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior.

You don’t have to be rich or famous – or a jerk – to get the women you want.

MYTH 7) Women are better than men.

This one is a lot like #4. A lot of guys run around with the idea that what the media tells you about men is true.

– That we’re dogs
– That we’re only out for s*e -x
– That we’re the rapists, pedophiles, and violent offenders
– That we start all the wars
– That we are just a bunch of grunting animals who only love football and porn
– That we’re just plain BAD.

Watch any of today’s movies or television shows and they portray men as buffoons that can only understand “Three Stooges” episodes, or lounge around on our front lawns in wife-beater t-shirts on “Cops.”

Women have more than their fair share of problems and issues, and if you’ve dated a woman for longer than a few weeks or months, you know I’m telling the truth here. Don’t get me wrong; they’re the most wonderful and complicated creatures, but they’re not BETTER than men.

They’re just women. And they can be understood.

MYTH 8) The more you tell her about you or about how you feel about her, the better your chances to impress her and make her want you.

This one is COMPLETELY the opposite. The more you tell her, the LESS she will feel for you. Especially if it’s about YOUR feelings.

A lot of guys think that if they just tell her how HE feels, she’ll suddenly discover the love within her for him.

Again, another Hollywood lie that is perpetuated because guys don’t take the time to really sit down and think this through.

What is the most important thing to a woman?


If you can make her FEEL the right mixture of curiosity, excitement, and hope, you can get her interested in you.

I’ll show you how to do that.

MYTH 9) Guys must “ask women out” on dates because it’s what women want.

The single most routine and ordinary (BORING) thing to do is ask a woman out.

You have to have more imagination than this. This is the oldest routine, and all women know how it works. By asking a woman out, you force her to think of you in romantic terms.

It’s like you just asked her:

“Do you like me romantically, or don’t you? Or would you just like a free meal and drinks, on me?”

Golly. What a choice, studpuppet.

You should never invest money in a woman that isn’t ALREADY interested in you.

That’s like giving money to an investment that you know NOTHING about. You just saw the advertising pamphlet and it looked really good, so you bought into it.

I’ve got a bunch of ways for you to find out if she is really into you or not.

MYTH 10) Since I’m a “nice guy,” I should be what women want, and therefore I should be getting laid.




This one belief will probably cripple you for life, as well as turning you into a bitter, angry man.

There are more myths about women and seduction than you would believe. They’re misconceptions that have been pumped into you by years of bad advice, well-meaning friends, and our media and Hollywood programming.

You owe it to yourself to find out what women are REALLY thinking, and what you can change to start GETTING RESULTS with them.

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About Fairness And Female Relationships

One of the biggest mistakes men make in their relationships with women is projecting into them their male thinking.

One of the masculine features they usually project into women is fairness.

When this mistake comes back to byte their asses they do not understand what happened, they cannot understand why their girls come back to them in such a self-centered, selfish way in response to their fairness.

Well there is a simple reason fro it:: fairness is – in fact – an invention of men.

Men have been providers to women and children along all the thousands of years of Evolution so they feel terribly guilty if everything is not “shared in a fair way.”

This is the responsibility you feel when you know you have the power.

Women are different: their job was for thousands of years to invent ways to have the men give them and their children part of the preys of their hunting, for the seek of their survival.

Being fair was easy to men: they had the power and access to food and resources.Being fair was much more difficult for women under such conditions and could have impaired their own survival and the survival of their children.

It comes out that if you are fair to a woman she will draw a long list of very unpleasant conclusions about you and your personality of which these are the most important:

– She will think about that is you are fair to her it is because you are tired of hunting and want to rest and please her. In a word what is for you a good, noble thing is for her a weakness. She will draw the conclusion that you are less fit for survival than usual and give you the last hit. In fact if you are less fit for survival it may be the last time she gets your preys away from you.

– She will draw the conclusion that she is permitted to steal from you the prey of your hunting and believe me: she will.

Guys listen to me.

This is one of the main reasons for the failure of your relationships with your wives and your girlfriends: if you look backward there was a moment where you started to feel:”This is not fair, I am more powerful, I should raise her at my level”.

Soon after you wondered why you get absolutely no “thank you” from her and why she seems to want more and more and more out of you.

Guys tell me the truth: each one of you has been in his marriage or relationship with a woman in the point where he has to ask from himself:”What the fuck is going on here? The more I give to her the more she takes!”

This process went on until.. you were made weaker and she went out of the relationship with you with half of your property.

Or until you had to stop her from doing that in a pretty rough way.

No matter how balanced and sexy a woman is, no matter how great you and she get along she will have to be reminded not to be selfish. She is incapable of what you guys call “altruistic” behavior toward her same-age partner.

She can only be “altruistic” toward her children.

That doesn’t mean you can’t teach her how to behave to relate with you in a different way. What you need to take out of your mind is that you will be able at a certain point to have her internalize fairness. That will never happen.

When a male perceives himself in a situation in which he is taking advantage of the other person, he tends to feel guilty

He either constructs psychological defenses that allow himself to continue in the one-sided business in which he gains at the other person’s expense or, he somehow goes about increasing the gain for the other person while reducing his own until that point at which he feels things are “fair” or “equal” again.

In other words, he somehow tries to build an altruistic balance.

When a female, on the other hand, perceives herself to be involved somehow in a one-way relationship, she recognizes it as such but then doesn’t take the next step. Instead, her typical response is to attempt to perpetuate the situation, cause it to continue, figure out how to make sure she continues to get that stuff.

It isn’t nasty behavior from her; it is, simply, her own instinct to preserve herself. When her children get messed up she sacrifices herself; but not before that time. Well maybe some modern women not even when their children get messed up.. but those are extreme cases.

So if you set yourself in a relationship with a woman in the position of being “fair” to her in everything she will take out of you everything, even the last penny. Instead the position you need to take towards her is the one of constantly teaching her how to give you things in return for what you are giving to her. You have to teach her that whatever you give to her is not for free. You need to teach her fairness and altruism.

When you do this you achieve her respect: you are showing her that you can hunt around and also hunt her.

How you do that on daily basis? Like this:

– Your leadership over a woman is not for free. Every time you lead her you need to communicate / sub-communicate that you do that only if you are treated well and get something in return. If she stops giving you stop leading. Verbalize this at need.

– Be specific in asking things from her. Women like to take care of you. You can be specific about how you want her to make love with you, in which way you want to be touched, tell her openly what pleases you sexually.

– You can be specific in regard on how you want her to behave socially, how you want her to dress, how you want her to come close to you, of which subjects you want her to talk with you and so on.

When you teach her to give things back to you in return for your existence in her life you are behaving with her like her Prince. Women love to be devoted to Princes because they are usually the best hunters.

Instead if you get into the downward spiral of giving her all what you have for the sake of fairness you will be taken into a black hole, her attraction and respect for you will go down and you will finally lose her.

She will think that you are pleasing her because you want to rest and stop hunting and will behave accordingly by taking all what remains of your prey out of you. An alpha male cannot rest. That is an illusion. If you are alpha you know that you can rest only in your grave.

Put your energy into business, pick-up, seduction and never enter a relationship where you are being made weaker !

To be able to understand the deep differences in psychology between you and women is a very important skill.

If you are a single man willing to seduce women to get a wonderful girlfriend.

Or a husband willing to make his own wife happy in the relationship.

Or a playboy willing to have a lot of fun.

17 Tips to Write a Killer Personal Ad

Online dating websites offer the easier and
quicker way for single guys to meet women. The
use of online personal ads to get the audience
you desire is quite different that picking up a
girl in the real life situations. When you meet
her at a bar, party or disco it might be
difficult for you to approach her, you may feel
embarrassed, but with online dating, it is easier
and less stressful.

Therefore, you have made up your mind to put a
personal ad, but you are getting none or few
responses to your request and no girl is
approaching you. Remember that you have to
attract women with your online ad. These days
very sophisticated personal ads are appearing in
top quality dating sites.

In today’s world of online dating personal ads,
have to be witty, informative, and hopefully
effective. If you want to get the best personal
ad, you must to present the right image, get
people to interact you by being friendly and
chatting every day. You should try in every
single way possible to prove and show that you
are as you have said, including your own
personality and characteristics. Writing a
personal ad is like writing a love letter, a poem
dedicated to your future partner.

For to increase your success in online dating you
have to make your personal ad to be the best.
Here are some tips that might help you.

– first and the most important is that you must
complete your personal profile fully, to be
informative, complete, to make the woman

– run spell-check – a profile full of mistakes
shows that you are a sloppy, careless type

– add a photograph; ensure that the photo is
bright, clear and recent; a perfect picture with
the right clothing and a smiled face will have a
big effect recording to the visitors of your
personal ad; many people don’t add a profile
photo because they think that they aren’t
photogenic; but this is a wrong idea because the
profiles that haven’t a photo is much less viewed
like the other

– be yourself, be sincere and say what you like
and looking for; be honest, if you are looking
just for a casual date because you already have a
wife, say it, don’t imply that you are looking
for marriage just to get more details, because
this is a waste of time for everyone

– avoid major disclosures – you don’t have to
tell everything about yourself in the first
paragraph, this will not be interesting anymore

– splatter your profile with humor, drama, funky
metaphors, they will draw instant attention and

– don’t be aggressive or rude in your personal ad,
because this will show that you are not friendly
and open for new friends

– communicate – it is important to communicate if
you want to make friends and to know better the
possible partners

– keep your profile positive and update, so don’t
use words like ”desperate” , hurry to meet

– don’t use swear words because are generally
offensive and turn people off

– list all the things you like can be a handful;
choose one good example and talk about why you
like it

– don’t make list of your accomplishments; avoid
using personals adjectives like: I’m a
spontaneous, creative, honest person

– you can include the things that make up your
good points like the fact that you like kids, or
you are told that you are funny

– ask questions to them to answer via email

– also try to response at people messages in a
reasonable amount of time, not after a month

– be positive , show that you love life and know
how to live it

– be patient; it is true that it takes a time
until you meet somebody and get to know her
better, but it works

Also in your personal ad, you can include some
action phrases, which will express your
personality and characteristics. Some of this
action phrases are:

– long term relationship – shows the fact that
you have the sense of commitment, you are ready
for a long relationship

– great personality – express the fact that you
have a truly magnificent personality and it’s
worth meeting you

– no baggage – means that you are completely
free of attachments such as a spouse or child

– active and adventurous – means that you are in
a really good shape, physically fit

– ask me anything – shows that you are honest,
adventurous and open to sharing details about

Now that you know how to make your personal ad to
be the best, I wish you good luck in finding the
perfect partner.

13 Types of Girls you should Avoid

In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman. Many of them consider that if she is beautiful and well dressed, its the perfect partner they are looking for. But they don’t know that behind this appearance its hiding something worst.

Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you should avoid for to not be hurt again.

Desperate girl

-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she doesn’t get married yet because she hasn’t met the perfect man for her

-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what he does

-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long as he has marriage material

-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the rest of your life with her

Materialistic girl

-usually is good looking and well dressed

-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry taker

-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well with their wallet

-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she is biologically female

-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you’ll see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more

-she is greed personified

-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings

-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she spend all your money

Angry girl

-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle

-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at her address

-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man

-she is always upset and angry

-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to her and to interpret the words like she wants

-you don’t have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men which can explode at any moment

Insecure girl

-she is very nice and treats men very well

-but she suffers by frustration

-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision

-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go, what to eat

-she needs constant reassurance that she’s attractive and worries incessantly

Stupid girl

-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn’t say nothing smart

-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation

Uptown girl

-she is very rich

-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure that you know it

-she only dates the best of best

-is entirely focused on herself

-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as ” daddy’s little girl”

-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or where she goes

Childish girl

-everything in life hurts this kind of girl

-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or criticism will upset her

-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to spend all the time apologizing even if you didn’t make any mistake

-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will be thrown on yourself

Elusive girl

-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship

-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids or sabotages new relationships in the present

-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away

-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you’ll never understand her

Talking girl

-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to make a comment about everything

-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say something about everything is happening or speaking around her

Romantic girl

-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels

-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to come after her

-she doesn’t know how the real world is

-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess

Dragger girl

-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no reason to feel that

-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around her is a total drag

-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like it was the worst thing that could happen ever

Controlling girl

-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you too

-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat

-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use any deceptive female tactic until you give up

Flirting girl

-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity

-has a big power of attraction

-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes along

With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good, carrying woman just for you.

8 Rules for a Successful Date

Dating is a necessary part of finding the perfect
match for you. Its a selection process, that
needs to be followed with some type of an idea of
how to handle yourself.

The easiest way to meet women is to be
approachable and make new friends. This way you
will meet more people and some of them might have
female friends they will set you up with. You
will be exposed to new places and activities,
which might lead to meeting women.

There are guys that know how to date, guys that
haven’t dated in years, or 부산건마 others that has never
been successful with women. Whatever the case,
they all should follow some common rules for to
have a successful date.

Finally you have a date with the beautiful girl
you look after for some good time and she never
seen you before. But, the miracle happened and
you have the chance to meet her and impress her
at a date. So, to not fail in you date watch out
these important dating rules.

1. Try to look your best and be punctual on dates.
Get your hygiene and stiling sorted out. Most
women prefer smartly dressed guys. Not over the
top, at the height of fashion, but cleanly turned
out in suitable clothes. So your appearance can
be vital.

Never be late for a date unless you have a very
good reason. Women don’t like to be kept waiting
even less for a man .

2. Sort out your job if is one you are proud of
and get your knowledge levels up. Most women love
a guy to show that he can be in charge. So you
should have every little detail taken care of and
organized. It shows that you are capable, and
attentive, qualities much sought after in a
potential mate.

3. Pay attention to her. Be interested , stop
talking and start listening. You are on a date
with her to get to know each other, use that time
effectively, to find out as much about each other
as possible. Give her your undivided attention.
Ask about her, show interest in her. Everyone
loves to talk about themselves, her included.
Allow her to talk, and then listen. This is one
of the greatest compliments you can give another
person. Also you should watch the details,
nothing shows better that you are a sensitive,
caring man that try all to make her feel
comfortable on date.

4. Flatter and compliment your date on the way
she look and how she is dressed. She made a lot
of effort for to look wonderful on your date. So,
it’s good for her to hear that she looks good and
is beautiful.

5. Have fun when dating to create a happy
atmosphere so your partner to not get bored. It
is very important that she feel good so maybe you
will get a second date.

6. Don’t be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy
and manners will get you everywhere.

7. Never date a married person because she would
not leave her husband for you and you will be for
her just a shoulder to cry on. This types of
date are based only on lies.

8. Be confident. Confidence can open many doors
for you. When you are confident she will have
more trust in you and your abilities.

The most importing thing at all on date is to be
your self. Thats because after the date there
will be ordinary days to come and it have never
paid to play someone youre not on the date. The
best thing to do is to show the other person
right from the beginning what kind of man you are
or it will never work.