Flirting Tips for Guys

By and large, guys are pretty bad when 강남건마 it comes to flirting. It’s time you learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition. These flirting tips will have you 부산건마 headed in the right direction in no time.

Physical & Verbal cues

1) Posture and Positioning
Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out your chest. Take up space. If you’re talking to a girl, stand no more than two feet away. Don’t necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer than you might ordinarily.

Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she’s into you, step back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it’s a good sign.

2) Eyes
The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. Use your eyes to give off powerful stares of desire. It’s possible to make a girl’s heart skip a beat by giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you’re walking by a girl you’ve got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She’ll get the message.

3) Touch
It’s OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you’re talking to her. But be careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don’t go overboard or you’ll freak the girl out.

4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren’t scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don’t be scared to compliment a girl…tell her what you think. If she’s looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day…she’ll immediately realize that you want her.

5) What you should say
To be completely honest, if you’re sending out all the right body language, it doesn’t matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it’s always best to focus on charming her and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while you’re talking.

Mental cues

1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness
It’s crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the situation and isn’t nervous. Put on a show of confidence…girls love guys who are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is something you should avoid at all costs. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement
You’ve got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective flirt. If you’re kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise to your level.

Flirting Mistakes – 8 Things Not To Do

Being a good flirt has as much to do with not doing the wrong things as it does with doing the right things. Flirting is difficult because there’s such a fine line between being successful and crashing and burning. It’s so easy to do everything right, but then ruin all of your progress by making one of the all too common mistakes below.

1) Don’t be crude
If you make obvious and nasty sexual innuendoes, you aren’t being a turn on, you’re being a pervert…unless you’re a girl (then it’s ok).

2) Don’t ignore body language
Over 65% of communication is non-verbal. If you aren’t actively looking at the way their body is shifting or what the person’s eyes are saying, you’re going to miss a lot of obvious signs that say “I’m into you, keep talking.”…or…”You’re a freak, and I don’t want you around a second longer.”

3) Avoid being overtly slick
It’s fine to act cool, but don’t go overboard. You won’t seem like yourself…and that’s not attractive.

4) Don’t be silly
Flirting should make your target feel sexy and wanted, not entertained. You want to be perceived in a sexual way…not as the funny guy or girl.

5) Don’t be excessively cute
If you act too cute (unsexy), you’ll be seen as an innocent and nice person. That’s great if you want to be just a friend, but not for anything more.

6) Cut your losses if it’s obvious your actions aren’t appreciated
If your flirtations are clearly visible and you aren’t being flirted with back, it’s time to pack it up and move on.

7) Don’t show fear
Insecurity is perceived as a terribly unattractive sign of weakness. If you want to get your target to take you seriously, you’ve got to hide your nerves. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

8) Avoid being overly touchy feely…unless you’re a girl
This is specifically aimed at the guys. It’s not appropriate to grope or touch a woman unless you know she likes you. If you aren’t sure that she’s into you, it’s ok to lightly touch her shoulder or graze her arm…but that’s it! Do not put your arm around her waist or constantly touch her shoulder or body. This will freak her out and make her feel terribly uncomfortable around you.

“You are killing US with YOUR jealousy”

To be accused and mistrusted by the one you love is a hardship and a definite pain that one cannot bear for a long time. They eventually either walk away or take a stand and call out to you, (the attacker) to please stop; to please listen to what you are saying and accusing them of.

So far I have enlightened the world with my thoughts on jealousy and self-esteem. I want to clear up any misunderstandings that may have some male people thinking that I am targeting only women here. Jealousy and self-esteem issues also can imprison men as well as women. No one is excused from real human emotions. Emotions know no face, color, size or gender. There are two victims here, not just one.

I also feel that I have neglected to reveal how the other party involved in a relationship that suffers from jealousy or self-esteem issues also suffers.

A relationship is a partnership. It is a commitment made between two people, in that we will stand by each other through thick and thin. Unfortunately, when it is a jealousy issue, both parties are effected. We tend to focus on the person that is trapped in the prison of worry, more than the other person that is caught in the line of fire, partly because we need to free that side first, then we can help heal the other.

Well I am now going to share that persons prison of hell as well.

To be accused and mistrusted by the one you love is a hardship and a definite pain that one cannot bear for a long time. They eventually either walk away or take a stand and call out to you, (the attacker) to please stop; to please listen to what you are saying and accusing them of.

Time after time they try so hard to reassure you that they do love you and that they are not interested nor lusting for anyone else. When they try to tell you that it is all in your mind, they risk getting attacked more for defense. It is no doubt a vicious circle. They become paranoid that no matter where they are, you are already convinced that they have betrayed you in some way. They wait for the shoe to drop. Some times it takes a few days, some times it drops immediately. Never the less they have to sit by and worry about when it will drop. They fear that this time they will not be able to say the right thing. They fear we will get even more depressed and irrational with what they say to us. They begin to feel, “damned if they do, and damned if they don`t”. I personally hate that feeling. To think that I myself would put someone in that position makes me want to run away faster than Forrest Gump.

The neglect you put on that person through your jealous insecurities is as real to them as your feelings of being trapped in your prison of doubt. There are many scenarios as to why jealousy rises up inside people, but for the innocent ones that really do not ever do anything to trigger that fear inside you, they are the innocent victims. People that have come to the point of identifying their issues and have began to deal with them, please remember the other person that is there with you. They too need special attention, because they have shared your fears and your pain. In a much different way, never the less, they still ache. Jealousy can destroy so many good things in ones lives. It can destroy our mate, through you, it kills the one thing that you love deeply. The worst part about it is, that you allow it. You must stop. Would you take a gun and shoot your mate? NOT!! So then why are you allowing this emotion to torture what is so dear to you? I repeat, as long as your mate is not responsible for your fears or if they have made amends and are trying to make things better, then please understand their pain of being mistrusted. When they see you in pain and they are being told it is because of them, they crumble. Your mate loves you as much as you love them, and to feel they are responsible for your trapped feelings eats them up inside. To see you smile and feel totally loved makes them feel good about themselves in that they are responsible for that smile. That is a good feeling all the way around.

Also be careful not to fall into that habit of being unhappy through jealous feelings. Understand where they are coming from. Are you using them as a reason to get attention? Again, a wrong kind of attention. If you cannot get the right attention you feel you are lacking, then talk to your partner. Do not let jealous emotions take over and confuse what you really are trying to say. Any weakness in your mind is a direct route for negative feelings to travel through. Once they get there, they work very quickly at bringing you down. So be aware of what exactly you are feeling.

I hope that I have at least opened up some thoughts in your minds as to what else is going on in a relationship that is plagued by jealousy. Both sides are equally being torchered and killed. We need to LIVE, LOVE & LAUGH more often with each other. Oh and lets not forget my favorite thing to do…HUGGGGGG!!!!

One thought from my heart to yours:

Say this outloud:

“I am always ready to risk.
I am always ready to learn.
I am always ready to test my strength, and so I put my worries aside and just live!”

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