A Dating Story From My Youth

Matt Matcherson is a writer musician and humorist. Sometimes he even writes funny music. His site MatchTales brings dating stories, site reviews and free dating support forums to the web.

One of my first “Big Dates” was a Cotillion dance in 8th grade…or was it seventh? Cotillion was an attempt by a local “grande dame” to nurture refined manners in a group of young teens along with ballroom dancing instruction. I think it was a truly nerve wracking experience for most of …

Matt Matcherson is a writer musician and humorist. Sometimes he even writes funny music. His site MatchTales brings dating stories, site reviews and free dating support forums to the web.

One of my first “Big Dates” was a Cotillion dance in 8th grade…or was it seventh? Cotillion was an attempt by a local “grande dame” to nurture refined manners in a group of young teens along with ballroom dancing instruction. I think it was a truly nerve wracking experience for most of us! Once a week we would walk a couple blocks from the middle school to the K of C Hall located on the 3rd floor of a downtown building. A virtual skyscraper in our town! Guys wanting a little money would hang about by the door and help the instructor out of her car …open the door. These kind of brownie points paid a couple bucks cash! If you were really good you would carry some of her stuff up the 3 flights of worn wooden stairs. It was one of those buildings that are mystifyingly old…the major mystery to me being that they haven’t burned down!

We would then partner up and learn the rhumba, the foxtrot, the bossa nova, jitterbug, waltz etc. Every so often we would switch partners and during the session you would dance with each of the 50 girls a couple times. All very open stance and supervised…but still at that age, and for a nerdy guy still in his Clark Kent frames it was something of a thrill.

Jenny (names have been changed to protect the sweet and innocent) was a cute little girl from my neighborhood. She lived about 4 blocks away so I only saw her when I was walking home. Her family had a tree between the sidewalk and street with a trunk that was curved from years of kids passing by and jumping up to hang from it…at least I think I wasn’t the only one! Many days Jenny would be waiting by that tree till I passed by and smile nervously saying “Hi”. I too would say “Hi”. Sometimes I even said it first! But always continuing on my way. God only knows what disasters would have occured if I had stopped to talk any further! But this was earthshaking stuff making my head spin on the rest of my walk home.

Well this brazen flirting continued and the pitch of her “Hi’s” became higher and happier. When it was time to invite someone to the dance I found the number in the phone book and spent an hour or so making myself nervous. One of Jenny’s 300 sisters answered the phone and I heard much yelling for her and thumping up and down stairs…I nearly hung up in fear! This was much worse than when the german shephard down the street was chomping on my leg as I rode past on my bike!

I don’t remember the conversation with Jenny…I may have blacked out. But I know it was successful because weeks later I found myself at her house in a suit in this predicament with an enourmous corsage and no clue of how to pin it to her dress. Thankfully her mother came to the rescue. Her mom still laughs about that when she see’s me.

After that awkward scene things got better. We sat with friends and ate, all joking around. Jenny and I actually remembered the different dances and impressed the leader of the orchestra a little. Music, friends and dancing with a childhood crush. There was nothing more to it than that. Really when compared to some of my more recent dates, it is perfect in comparison.

A brief history of online dating

This artical is about how the internet has changed dating in our society and describes some of the sites available on the internet with the author working with chancetomeet.com, an up market dating website aimed at the quality end of the dating market.

The introduction and singles dating industry is not new. In fact, dating and singles clubs have been around for many years. Bob Hope said in the early 1950’s, “I once sent my photograph to a Lonely Hearts club and they sent it back saying, thanks but we are not that lonely”. The Lonely Hearts club image lasted nearly as long as Bob Hope himself and was the butt of many comedians’ jokes, which gave the dating industry an image that only desperate and lonely people join such clubs.

The internet has changed many things and nowhere has it had a larger impact than with the dating industry. Online dating websites started to bring a younger audience to the dating and singles matchmaking industry, where these systems would conveniently email you people in your area who were also looking to meet other single people. The fact that these early sites, as many poor quality sites still do today, would simply collect as many photographs as possible and send them to you, would frequently result in you opening your email only to have a photo staring out at you that could scare a police horse.

The better quality online dating sites such as chancetomeet.com, have highly developed searches and tools such as “connect phrases” to help you find the right person. There is good evidence that the sites that charge for membership have a much higher quality of contact, with the more you pay the more serious the member. Free sites or sites that charge a nominal amount tend to attract the “one night stand” end of the market and tend to have page after page of contacts that you have to trawl through with little or no information about that person, apart from the fact they like holidays, nice people and watching the X factor, with dislikes of people who bring an axe on the first date!

The future of online dating, whether you are looking for the chance to meet a long term partner, or maybe looking for something more casual, does seem to be assured, as the high divorce rate and number of people staying single looks set to continue globally in the years to come.

However, things are about to change in the future of online dating, just as dating changed with the advent of the internet. Only this time it may be even more of a revolution, as computers get faster along with Internet connection speeds. These advances will bring more exciting ways to date and meet people as social networking sites have recently shown. As computer graphics improve, we will see Virtual reality start to become the norm in online dating. Chancetomeet.com has been developing technologies in this area ready to take advantage of faster computing power and are preparing to launch these new services in the near future. To keep up to date why not register for free at www.chancetomeet.com and who knows what the future may bring.

A Beginners Guide To Online Dating – 5 Great Tips!

Make your dating site of choice work for YOU!

Did you know that two out of five single people in the UK now use some kind of on line dating service? That’s 40% of all singles! Unfortunately, the percentage of these people who actually find a real romance as a direct result of their site memberships is very low – probably less than 10%.

Why is this? Well, it’s true that some sites are better than others; they have more traffic, they are better to navigate; they just ‘work’ whilst others just don’t. But what really matters is how you use a site when you actually sign-up to one. Take my word for it, unless you take the five simple steps that I’m about to outline, you may as well do something more productive with your time than join a singles site. What I’m about to say may sound obvious and rather simplistic, but you’d be surprised at how many people don’t bother doing the ‘obvious’. So here goes…

  1. Create A Great Profile. This is the most important aspect of your dating site experience. Don’t just say ‘Nice guy seeks nice girl for trips to the cinema’ – how boring does that sound? Take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, your interests and the type of person you’re hoping to meet. And remember to sound happy, upbeat, fun and confident; if you’re miserable about your recent breakup, then keep it to yourself! This isn’t the time for modesty; if you think you’re pretty darn attractive, then be sure to say so. And humour is a real ice-breaker – if you can make someone laugh, they’ll be more likely to want to contact you.
  2. Always Upload A Photo. Even if you don’t have a very flattering one to hand, you should always post a pic with your profile. Remember, 95% of people on dating sites only search for other members who have bothered to provide a picture of themselves. You want to see what other potential partners look like so it stands to reason that other people will want to know what you look like too. If your photo isn’t recent or isn’t a great likeness of you, you can always say so in your profile.
  3. Be Proactive. Don’t just join a site and expect other people to contact you. Make sure you regularly search the database for people with whom you might be compatible and when you find someone you like the look or sound of, write to them immediately and tell them why you think you might be a good fit.
  4. Write Great Emails. OK, you’ve joined a dating site, you’ve searched for other members who fall within your specified categories, and you’ve been presented with a page of matching profiles. You’re eager to fire off a few emails…but what on earth do you say in them? Re-read the paragraph above about creating a great profile and apply the same rules to the first email that you send to another member. If it looks like you can’t be bothered to say much or that you’re sending the same one line message to several people, then they probably wont bother to reply. Tell that person a little about who you are and why you think you might both be compatible – respond directly to what you’ve read in that person’s profile – sound interested and interesting and you’ll get an email by return – sound boring and downbeat and you’ll just be ignored.
  5. Check Back With The Site. There are two reasons why you should do this as often as possible. The most obvious one is to keep up to speed with who has joined since you last logged-on; that special someone might have signed-up since you last visited the site so don’t miss out. However, what most people don’t realise is that when you log-in to a dating site, your profile moves up the listings on the internal search engine which means that you are more likely to be spotted and subsequently contacted by other people. Don’t be a stranger to the site you’ve joined and I recommend that you visit the site at least once a day during the lifetime of your membership.

So there you have it – 5 easy ways to make your chosen dating site work for YOU. Have fun and happy hunting!

7 Clues That Your Partner Is Cheating On You

Cheating is the worst form of destruction to your
relationship or marriage; it is already
considered a betrayal of the vows they took when
they got married. The discovery of the act of
cheating by the other half can either break the
marriage or make it stronger depending on the
strength of their love for one another.

Cheating is the worst form of destruction to your
relationship or marriage; it is already
considered a betrayal of the vows they took when
they got married. The discovery of the act of
cheating by the other half can either break the
marriage or make it stronger depending on the
strength of their love for one another.

Cheating generally means that you are not fully
satisfied with your current partner or you feel
that something is missing in the relationship. If
you were completely in love and happy within your
relationship, why it might happen that your
partner have an affair?

Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but
yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed
something is different or questioned the change
of behavior in your partner.

Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter what
state your marriage is in and if you believe your
partner is having an affair now is the time to
check it out and do a little investigation just
to be sure.

Start by looking for the obvious things such as a
change in the way your partner dresses, a sudden
desire to look good, a change in work patterns,
an unusual interest in the gym, secrecy over
phone calls or emails, a loss of intimacy in your
marriage, lack of sexual interest or distance
between you that never used to exist. In the
worst case you may spy her.

A cheating wife can cause much emotional trauma,
not to mention the harm it could cause a family.

Here are some important clues that might help you
to find out if your partner is having an affair.

1.Changes in appearance and attitude. She has a
sudden preoccupation with her appearance. She is
more interested on how she dresses; go often to a
hair salon and even to gym, even if this wasn’t
her main priority before.

2.Lessened intimacy. If in the past you used to
share everything with your wife and then suddenly
she seems distanced and clams up when you try to
discuss intimate things, it could mean that she
has already distanced herself emotionally and
mentally from you. She is suddenly frigid and
loses any interest in doing anything with her
husband.

3.She’s being secretive. She’s no longer sharing
her daily events with you. She might avoid you
because she feels guilty. Don’t get paranoid and
suspicious, ask her if everything is ok and tell
her she’s been acting differently lately.

4.Disinterest in family. If your wife is no
longer excited to meet you at the door from work
there must be a problem here. Or when your
partner feels the sudden need to go out try to
find a reason to accompany her. If she comes up
with a reason that she had to go on her own push
the issue, not too much but just enough to see if
she becomes more uncomfortable.

5.Less arguing and fighting. She used to get
angry if you didn’t want to come out with her and
her friends, but now everything you do is all
right by her. Once upon a time, your every move
had to be premeditated, but now all the small
things you used to mess up aren’t enraging her.
This could be a good thing, but you wonder why
she no longer cares.

6.More phone and internet. In the last time she
speaks a lot at the telephone using a low voice
or whisper on the phone and hangs up quickly.
Maybe she set up a new e-mail account and doesn’t
tell you about it. Watch out because she might
buy a cell phone and doesn’t let you know. Ask
her if she is being true with you and if she
becomes accusatory then it is obvious that she is
cheating you.

7.She’s always late. In the past she never came
home late but now this happens more and more. Her
explanation is that she had to stay more at the
office because she has a lot of work to do. Or
she goes to the store and comes home four hours
later. This is really a reason to worry.

Cheating spouses often look and act guilty, give
a general feeling that something isn뭪 right.
They try and avoid meaningful conversations, keep
everything at a general and non intimate level.

6 Ways To Get Your Ex-Back In 3 Days

We make relationships to enjoy life. Even it
perhaps a lot of sacrifices to keep a
relationship and to make it work, many of us
prefer to make these sacrifices just to have near
the person we love and like to spend time with.

We make relationships to enjoy life. Even it
perhaps a lot of sacrifices to keep a
relationship and to make it work, many of us
prefer to make these sacrifices just to have near
the person we love and like to spend time with.

Sometimes it happens that a relationship ends
even that there is still love between the
partners. This happens when one of the partners
makes some regular mistakes and has a bad
behavior towards the other. But usually the one
who is guilty for ending the relationship are men
who figures out too late how much it cares about
the other and wants to change only after lose her.

There is nothing worst that being dumped by the
one you love and believed was “the one”. Trying
to get a woman back in to your life is difficult.
If you lost your true love because of you and
really want to get her back, don’t desperate.
Your situation is not necessarily hopeless.

At some point in life, we all lose something that
we really wish we held on to – in this case, you
lost your love and you need to get your ex back.
Getting back together with your lost love is not
about 밽etting?them back or even relationship
repair. It’s about wining them back. Winning them
back implies a few important things semantically.
It implies effort from your part.

First off all call her and tell her that you
really want to see her. If she wants to take
lunch with you make it so your ex notice that you
are changed, that you thought about why did she
leave you and she had right because there are
many reasons why she left. Apologize sincerely.

If she doesn’t want to talk to you by not picking
up the phone when you call her, just surprise her
by waiting in front of the office where she works
and offer to walk her home when her program in
over. But before assure that she is not having a
boyfriend yet, because it might happen that
someone else is waiting for her so your chance is
ruined.

Act like you just starting dating, make her feel
special. Be honest, and tell her that you still
love her. Use the past to your advantage and let
her know that anyone deserves a second chance,
that things will be different now. Do not stalk
her; she might think that you are very desperate.
Just tell her that you are ready to make your
relationship a priority in your life.

If you can get a date with her, be positive,
laugh and smile. Make her feel good. Subtly touch
her when she’s talking. You must raise the level
of attraction between the two of you, if she
still loves you; you know that she has a weakness
towards you.

If she didn’t fall into your arms after your date
don뭪 give up. Call her often and just tell her
how you feel. Also you can make something special
for her, like sending flowers and buy her gifts.
Don’t forget about anniversary and birthday.

E-mail her and let her know that you are
available any time if she wants to have a date
with you. Also assure her that you don’t frequent
another girls and she is the most important for
you.

Be yourself, show her that you don’t play games
and your intentions are very serious. Also, don’t
be jealous if she had a date with another guy if
she is now ready to get back with you and
renounce to the other guy.

With this ways, a little luck and your personal
charm you can get your girlfriend back faster
than you think.

5 Tips To Make Her Respect You

Respect is one of the basic human values. As it
applies to people, is defined as an attitude of
admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling
is generally a result of a person’s achievements.
While all people deserve respect, not many of
they receive this.

Respect is one of the basic human values. As it
applies to people, is defined as an attitude of
admiration or esteem for a person. This feeling
is generally a result of a person’s achievements.
While all people deserve respect, not many of
they receive this.

Everyone wants to be respected by others but not
all of them get it. It뭩 important to first
define who a respectable person is before giving
respect to him.

First of all you have to keep in mind that in
order to demand respect, you will have to treat
others with equal amount of respect.

멢espect?is just a word, but what it means and
what it distinguishes for us can make all the
difference in how we observe ourselves and others
?as well as how we relate to future
possibilities and choices.

Many successful relationships have been built
around different political or religious believes,
but it all boils down to respect. They are based
on the belief that both partners are equal, that
the power and control in the relationship are
equally share. In a relationship, respect means
to listening each other, valuing each other’s
opinions, and also understanding the other’s
emotions.

If you want to make you respectable by your
girlfriend, here are some helpful tips which may
use.

  1. First of all it is very important to have self
    respect. Treat yourself with respect. If she
    sees that you don’t have any respect for yourself
    she might consider that she doesn’t have to show
    you either, because it is not important to you at
    all.
  2. What you give is what you take. Show respect
    if you want to be respectable. Everyone wants to
    be admired and appreciated. If you show your
    girlfriend that she is important to you, you’ll
    be easily in their good graces. Be attentive,
    give compliments, and make her feel comfortable
    with you and content. Simply admire the person
    you are with and listen carefully when she talks.
    So, she’ll love to spend time with you.
  3. Relax. Women think men are mediocre because
    they have a boring personality. So, when you have
    a date with her relax and have fun so she will
    feel great with you, because if she finds you
    boring you may get dumped. If you make her feel
    good she will respect you for the funny guy you
    are, being the person who can make her smile even
    when she is very sad.
  4. Don’t lie. We all now that women don’t like to
    be lied to. If she had caught you with a lie she
    will definitely not have any more respect for you.
    But, if she sees that you are sincere to her all
    the time, she will be proud of you and will show
    more and more respect for you.
  5. Be confident and polite. Look into her eyes
    when she talks to you and make her feel that you
    are a person who can trust in. Show her that she
    can talk with you about any subject or problem
    she has and can count on your help. Don’t forget
    to be polite, this will bring a reciprocal
    respect.

When you are in a relationship you must be
treated with respect, which means your girlfriend
must act like this:

  • lets you feel comfortable being yourself
  • is able to admit when she is wrong
  • is willing to compromise
  • respects your opinions, feelings and friends
  • tries to resolve conflicts by talking honesty
  • accepts when you뭨e saying no at things you don’
    t want to do

So, take a deep look at your relationship and
watch out if your girlfriend is making all this
things for you and if not you should try this
tips to make her respect you.