Find Out How You Can Take Women To Your Bed

Let’s talk about winners and losers in the game of love and succeeding with women.

Do you know what the difference is between 강남건마 the guys who are winners and losers? The guys who are winners with women do the things losers don’t want to do to take action to meet, attract, and seduce women.

While you probably know the importance of a relationship or even might be looking for that special someone, there are 부산건마 times when you only want to get laid.

That’s why it’s important to know how to seduce women.

Without seduction, you have little chance of having sex.

Guys who succeed with women don’t just think about it, they take action to meet and attract women. They do what it takes! When they see a woman they are attracted to, they pull the trigger. They don’t procrastinate, stall, ponder, or make excuses; they approach her right then and there. They don’t put it off.

Now many guys understand the importance of seduction, but they don’t know where to start. In fact they’ve probably found that it can be quite difficult to transition from a date to “getting it on” with a woman.

If you’re one of these guys, then I don’t have to tell you that it’s frustrating to like a woman but have no clue about how to seduce her.

But allow me to let you in on a little secret…

Women like sex as much as we do!

While they pretend to be seduced, they actually probably have as much desire for sex as any man. However they’re fairly selective about the manner of their sexual encounters.

Always remember that to have that woman you want, you have to do whatever it takes. Also, nothing in your love and sex life will change until you begin to do something about it.

Don’t be too talkative. More importantly, don’t keep talking about you self all the time. The idea is to seduce a woman not fill her with the most intimate details about yourself. Stop talking about office politics or your family. You may be from the blue blooded dynasty, but the dynasty isn’t going to help you seduce a woman. It might impress her but not necessarily seduce her. Give her some space and let her talk too. You should be indisputably fascinated with her. If you are ready to talk to her and listen to you, 99% of the time, she will surely respond to you.

It’s like anything in life, the fact that she makes you nervous is just an instinct that your brain stimulates when excited, it’s a GOOD feeling, you just need to learn how to control and use that feeling to your advantage and against hers… don’t worry she know you are nervous, and the test of how you communicate that is half the battle… Let those nerves working for you to melt any women you choose.

For instance, women don’t like to make the first move. Instead they want to be pursued and desired by men. In essence this means you have to have the courage and forwardness to become a seducer of women.

Even if a woman is really into you, sex won’t happen unless you make the first move. That means if she’s into you there’ll be little resistance to your seduction techniques.

To go from meeting a woman to having sex, you have to plan every single escalation point and what you’ll do to make it happen. By knowing how to navigate through this process, you’ll discover that seduce women is fairly easy!

My advice for planning out your transitions is to write down all the times where you encounter a roadblock or stopping point. In order to progress past this point, you have to identify the specific action you need to take.

So think of this moment and how you’ll handle it!

Some examples could include getting a woman’s number, setting up a date, initiating physical contact, kissing her and then finally seducing her.

You should attempt to do something special. Watch a movie, take a walk or have dinner at the place where you first met. There are so many small things that you can do to become creative, just go with the flow and seduce the woman of your dreams.

Dating-Habits for Successful Dating

Every time I talk to a guy who tells me his dating experience, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. Dating can be an absolute nightmare for some people. Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice.

1) Pay attention to her and listen.

Most guys try to impress sexy women by talking all through. Sexy women have heard it all before. But, if you ask her about herself, shut up and listen, and display a SMALL degree of interest, she will begin to wonder why you’re not slobbering all over her. She’ll want to discover more about you herself… now you’re a challenge, and sexy women love challenging guys. Why? Because they rarely meet one.

2) Ask questions.

Come up with a list before you leave the house, i.e., How did you get into that line of work? Where did you go to school? Have you seen the new Tom Cruise movie? And so on. If a woman tells you about her weekend at the yoga center, and you know absolutely nothing about yoga, just ask her what she likes about it, how she got into it, etc.

3) Compliment the other person.

Show sincere appreciation, so find something you like and mention it. You may be freaked out by the idea of complimenting a woman on her soulful eyes, so mention her watch, dress, hairstyle, or even her shoes. No need to go overboard: “Nice shoes,” will do it.

4) Be yourself.

Exaggerating or boasting your credentials, successes, etc will only make the woman lose interest. Make the other party feel at home so that she does not feel pressured to impress or lie to you. Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable around people who are genuine and sincere.

5) Give your date the royal treatment.

Buy her some flowers, buy her dinner and make her feel special. Show her that you value her company. Women loved to be showered with attention and pampered by her man. For the subsequent date, Cook up a meal at home and spend the evening watching movies or some other activity such as a board game. The meal most likely will be better than at a restaurant.

Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest. You’ll attract women who are looking for someone special for a change.

In Your Success,

Dating Tips and Seduction

Some guys will never become great with women.

“What?!”

You might think I’ve lost my mind, but it’s true.

A lot of guys just won’t get it.

And it’s not because they’re not smart enough or somehow defective…

In fact, it’s a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what you’re thinking.

“How can I make sure I’m not one of those guys?”

Am I right?

Well I’m here to tell you how. You will probably never hear what I’m about to say from other gurus because it’s such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt. Matt’s a good guy, likes to be social and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn’t get the success he really wants; in fact he’s not successful at all.

“Vin, why don’t you help him!?”

There are a couple reasons why I don’t help Matt out. One being he’s too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that’s not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I’d have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can’t help him is the same reason why he isn’t successful with women.

I’ve already said Matt’s a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don’t like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he’s trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens to Matt when he’s talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn’t a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they’ll acceptable it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won’t trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but… THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the “Death” card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It’s not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next you need to start doing is being clear about your intentions. This doesn’t mean directly telling a girl “The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants.” That’s going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you’re congruent with what you’re saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t want to spend the months writing that novel either.

Dating Tips: Shaping a Woman’s Behavior

I’d like to introduce a concept called SHAPING.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a STRONG precedent of behavior in a woman.

Quick Question >>>

Have you ever been in a situation with a woman, and she talked about how she LOVED when her boyfriend did something very specific?

Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps DO THE SAME EXACT THING?

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Have you ever been with a woman, and she asked you if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

Of course… we’ve all been there.

What’s important however is not what the outcome was in those situations, but only to be AWARE of the fact that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way…

Whether she knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN’T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing…

People do it to each other all the time.

But most of the time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT aligned with your desired outcome.

And that’s what we want to change STARTING RIGHT NOW.

There are a number of different ways you can start to employ shaping in your interactions with women.

And I’ve split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don’t get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping ALONE.

Right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to incorporate them into your interactions.

So let’s look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn’t start a conversation with a woman with the question “Do you consider yourself to be independent?”… but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to employ RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It’s a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like “What was the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?” (which is a screening question) You might say something like “Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life.”

Because you are JUSTIFYING your statement with a truism (it’s hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she’s committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we’re getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are VERY devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It’s funny actually – my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to discover that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also – had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the women I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea behind this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

“One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month’s copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit.”

The beauty of that is, it doesn’t even have to be true!

(I’m not going to make a moral decision for you here, I’m sure that you’re more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that – if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior – drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let’s say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don’t like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control…

You could say:

“Wow, you’re so much fun! and so-free spirited. It’s cool you do things you really want to do, and don’t rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires.”

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior
in the future.

By selecting the ASPECT of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she’ll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn’t go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration i.e. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her ‘good’ behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as “good” behavior from a woman, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE AFTER.

Hint: It should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, and NEVER material or monetary. Violating this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Be good, and use these techniques with care.

Dating Myths for Men

To a Man Who Wants To Attract More Women and Get More Dates — But Can’t
Get Started –

First – Learn the Truth About These Myths!

How Often Do You Find Yourself Saying: “I Wish I Knew How To attract the ladies and get more dates”?
If you’re like most of the guys I know, it’s often. More often than you want to admit.

We go out on “dates” with women, hoping that if we PROVE ourselves to them in some way, they’ll be interested in us and attracted to us. And time after time that just never happens. The date ends with a hug or a quick peck on the cheek, as she tells you, “I had a real nice time.”

If you’ve been put on the defense in this dance of romance, you can never really stop worrying, and your attitude will communicate things to a woman that will ultimately drive her away.

What I want to do is take a few minutes here and destroy some myths about women and men and get you started on the right path.

Let’s start right away with:

MYTH 1) Women want what they say they want.

It’s a shame we have to cover this one, but it bears repeating. All you have to do is see the apparent contradiction between what women SAY and what they DO and you’ll understand that they are not the same.

Women have an ideal picture of “romance” programmed into their heads as little girls, primarily from bad fairy tales they read. Then they moved up to the “bodice ripping” romance books. Yes, those cheezy ones you see on bookstore shelves.

Women (and men) don’t understand that they respond to definite behaviors much more than others, and they are behaviors that conform to simple rules. They’d be ashamed to admit them, but they are true.

And the good news for guys is that they can be learned. They’re part of you already; you just have to learn how to demonstrate them.

MYTH 2) Women are hard to understand.

This is a gross example of laziness . Women are extremely EASY to understand. The reason most guys say those cliche phrases like: “Women! Who can understand them.” Or other jokes to that effect is because men don’t think the way women do about certain things. They think emotionally, while you think LOGICALLY.

All it takes is for you to learn how to understand their way of thinking to understand them. You don’t have to BE a pet hamster to understand that he just loves chewing and running on that wheel in his cage. So you give him things to chew on, and give him a nice wheel.

Ba-da-bing. You just made Mr. Hamster happy.

But when it comes to women, guys want them to behave and think like GUYS. And when they discover that they don’t, they get all mad about it instead of learning how women actually think.

Ask yourself this: Are you mad at the weather when it rains? Or do you just figure out how an umbrella works so you can stay dry?

One you can control, the other you can’t.

One belief will leave you CONSTANTLY frustrated and angry. The other will put you back in control. Remember: It’s not what happens to you that’s important, it’s how you RESPOND to what happens to you.

MYTH 3) Right this minute you have all the skills you ever will with women. (Or, you can’t improve your skills beyond where you are right now.)

This one is the belief that follows right after the last myth. Men give up trying to figure out why a woman behaved a certain way, figuring that it’s easier to just run around saying, “Women! Who understands them?” Just like everybody else.

Who could blame us for feeling this way? Guys want a very UNcomplicated lifestyle. We don’t like hassles and drama. (Whereas women seem to feed off this energy.)

The truth is that your skill with women can ONLY increase from here, unless you’re in a rock band or you’re a gorgeous movie star where women are handed to you on a plate.

But make no mistakes – you don’t have to be a rock singer or a movie star to get women interested in you.

All it takes is getting the right information to put you on the right track.

MYTH 4) Women who are attractive are more important and their opinion means more than regular women.

Now, before you take that the wrong way, let me clarify. A guy will tend to treat a good-looking women as if she is a precious commodity, and that she is more valuable than himself.

We live in a society (and a world) that is completely hung up on appearances. We love beauty.

We actually WORSHIP it.

Look at the covers of magazines. Look at actors on television and in the movies. Look at our pop music stars. (Interesting that there are no ‘average’ looking people making good music, huh?) We pay billions and billions of dollars on our vanity. Hair
coloring, makeup, cosmetics, you-name-it.

There is a well-documented psychological fact that we tend to attribute more positive beliefs and attitudes to people who are attractive. We respect them more. We tend to believe that they are more talented and capable because of their appearance.

“Average” people don’t get the same kind of favorable treatment. As we all know, you can’t judge a book by its cover.

Remember that hot women are no different than any other woman, other than the fact that she lucked out in the genetic lottery.

She’s probably been spoiled and unchallenged her whole life because of her looks, which actually makes her EASIER to get than most other women.

MYTH 5) You need to convince, beg, or trick women into getting them to sleep with you.

Oh, dear. This one is where so many good guys go wrong.

Women want to do the nasty just as much as guys do. In fact, they get even more pleasure than we do, so they enjoy it more. The only difference is that women have better control over their desire than guys do. This stems from a time when women had to be VERY careful who she mated with, because she had to be sure she knew he was worth gambling her children’s future – and her own – with. If he couldn’t provide for her, she’d be in an incredibly difficult position.

Probably even fatal.

So she had to choose well. She learned how to read a guy’s status and standing by his actions. (Never his words. Anyone can SAY anything.)

The good news to this evolutionary programming is that it’s not hard to understand, and it’s easy to see through the Matrix and understand how to make it work FOR you. All you have to do is bring out certain behaviors you’ve been hiding for so long.

MYTH 6) You have to be rich, famous, a jerk, or good looking to attract hot women – OR – You can’t be a nice guy and get women.

NOT!

Women aren’t actually attracted to jerks because of their abusive behavior. Or to famous people because of their fame. Or rich guys because of their wealth.

They’re attracted to the potential feelings that these guys can give them.

Jerks give her a CHALLENGE.

Fame is attractive because of the POWER.

Wealth is attractive because of the SECURITY, COMFORT, and POWER.

And all of them are really just indicators about the guy that wields them.

It’s easy to assume because a guy is wealthy, he can keep her in a way that she would find comfortable.

It’s easy to assume that because a guy has fame, he also has the wealth. And he wouldn’t be famous unless a large number of people MADE him popular, right? This is called “social proof,” which I cover in my e-books and audio.

Again, the good news is that these are external indicators that you can simulate with your own behavior.

You don’t have to be rich or famous – or a jerk – to get the women you want.

MYTH 7) Women are better than men.

This one is a lot like #4. A lot of guys run around with the idea that what the media tells you about men is true.

– That we’re dogs
– That we’re only out for s*e -x
– That we’re the rapists, pedophiles, and violent offenders
– That we start all the wars
– That we are just a bunch of grunting animals who only love football and porn
– That we’re just plain BAD.

Watch any of today’s movies or television shows and they portray men as buffoons that can only understand “Three Stooges” episodes, or lounge around on our front lawns in wife-beater t-shirts on “Cops.”

Women have more than their fair share of problems and issues, and if you’ve dated a woman for longer than a few weeks or months, you know I’m telling the truth here. Don’t get me wrong; they’re the most wonderful and complicated creatures, but they’re not BETTER than men.

They’re just women. And they can be understood.

MYTH 8) The more you tell her about you or about how you feel about her, the better your chances to impress her and make her want you.

This one is COMPLETELY the opposite. The more you tell her, the LESS she will feel for you. Especially if it’s about YOUR feelings.

A lot of guys think that if they just tell her how HE feels, she’ll suddenly discover the love within her for him.

Again, another Hollywood lie that is perpetuated because guys don’t take the time to really sit down and think this through.

What is the most important thing to a woman?

HOW SHE FEELS.

If you can make her FEEL the right mixture of curiosity, excitement, and hope, you can get her interested in you.

I’ll show you how to do that.

MYTH 9) Guys must “ask women out” on dates because it’s what women want.

The single most routine and ordinary (BORING) thing to do is ask a woman out.

You have to have more imagination than this. This is the oldest routine, and all women know how it works. By asking a woman out, you force her to think of you in romantic terms.

It’s like you just asked her:

“Do you like me romantically, or don’t you? Or would you just like a free meal and drinks, on me?”

Golly. What a choice, studpuppet.

You should never invest money in a woman that isn’t ALREADY interested in you.

That’s like giving money to an investment that you know NOTHING about. You just saw the advertising pamphlet and it looked really good, so you bought into it.

I’ve got a bunch of ways for you to find out if she is really into you or not.

MYTH 10) Since I’m a “nice guy,” I should be what women want, and therefore I should be getting laid.

Nope.

Sorry.

Negative.

This one belief will probably cripple you for life, as well as turning you into a bitter, angry man.

There are more myths about women and seduction than you would believe. They’re misconceptions that have been pumped into you by years of bad advice, well-meaning friends, and our media and Hollywood programming.

You owe it to yourself to find out what women are REALLY thinking, and what you can change to start GETTING RESULTS with them.

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Approach Women Without Fear Of Rejection

Are you having trouble with attracting and seducing any hot women you meet?

Well if so, then pay close attention to what I’m about to tell you…

If you’re interested in increasing your overall success with women, then you should learn ONE important thing. It’s being able to approach women WITHOUT any fear of rejection!

I know this sounds simplistic, but many guys have major problems with this one aspect of their dating lives. They’re afraid to approach hot women because they worry about what could go wrong. Typically a lot of men get nervous thinking about what a woman will say and how she might reject him.

Now it’s possible for you to attract and seduce a beautiful woman. All you have to do is learn how to overcome your fear of rejection. By confidently walking up to a woman with NO fear of rejection, you’ll instantly become an attractive guy who has a seductive personality.

Here’s an example to illustrate this point…

One of my good friends is able to attract and seduce many beautiful women because he has almost no fear of rejection. While he knows he’s might be rejected, he’s able to eliminate all negative thought patterns. Instead he simply focuses on his approach and initiating conversations with women.

As you can see, the guys with no fear of rejection are able to increase your overall success with women. So if you learn to cultivate this personality, you’ll find that you’ll become better with women.

All you have to do is learn how to act confidently on all interactions with women. When you’re talking to women, simply concentrate on the conversation and work at eradicating all negative thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the conversation.

So if you’re intimidated by women, you need to work on building your confidence and become comfortable with approaching hot women. If you see an attractive woman, then you should immediately approach her.

When you get into the practice of approaching all hot women you see, you’re nervousness and fears will quickly fade away.

Once you get into a pattern of approaching women and initiating conversations with women, you’ll experience a dramatic increase in your success. Even if you’re only able to pick up a 강남건마 woman once in awhile, you’ll at least have more experience with your approach techniques. Also, you’ll be closer towards eliminating your fear of rejection. Attracting and seducing hot women is possible. But if you let your fears and nervousness get in the way, you’ll have little chance of success.

All you have to do is practice 부산건마 your approach techniques and become more confident, then you’ll master the art of attraction.

Accelerating Your Seduction Skills

With what you’ve learned with me so far, you WILL be able to get numbers from women. Lots of them. Now I’m not saying you’ll get the info for every lady that turns your head – plenty of women will be unavailable for various reasons. Some have boyfriends, some are taking a break, some are just in the wrong mood – whatever, it doesn’t matter. You know enough to not let the unavailable women get you down, affect your confidence, or change your playfulness. We’re not worried about them.

And now that you can get the numbers of TONS of women, my job is done, right?

Wrong. This is just the FIRST STEP and you‘ve got to remember that. Just because you’ve got a woman interested – and even if you keep your relaxed confidence going – there are plenty of places to stumble.

The Instant Date

Like what? This may surprise you, but you SHOULDN’T take women on dates. That might sound strange, so I’ll phrase it another way.

If you take a woman to dinner and a movie, you’re asking to be strung along like a knitting club’s quilt. You set yourself up for all sorts of mistakes – which I’ll talk about in a second – and you’re just begging for uncomfortable silences and boring conversation.

Hey, you can make it work. You just make yourself work a LOT harder.

So what should you do instead? Well, best-case scenario you create an instant date. You go from meeting to GOING somewhere, TOGETHER. This can mean moving from the bookstore to a coffee shop, one club to another – or often, to begin, just LEADING a woman from one part of a bar to another.

Create a World

That’s a POWERFUL move. Say you want to tell her something (and have something to tell her). Maybe it can be about something you want to show her at your house, like an album or a book (done subtly, this is a great way to lead to a house call). Take her hand and LEAD her to a more secluded spot.

Don’t put your hands all over her – you look desperate and pervy. But once you’ve led her somewhere, you’ve shifted the world a little bit – you are in it TOGETHER. Maintain strong eye contact. Speak in a quieter, confidential voice (the kind she wants to lean in to hear).

Set yourself up that way, and it should be much easier to get yourself moving to another spot right off the bat. The important thing is that you concentrate not on getting a woman to bed, but on moving to the next step.

Once you’ve got a connection, the next step is changing settings so you reaffirm and strengthen that connection.

This is good in so many ways. It gives you a chance to get to know the girl quickly – which is impressive when it happens quickly, plus it let’s you figure out if the lady is worth your time before you’ve invested much.

It feels natural – something even the best dates fail at.

It’s low-pressure fun – spontaneous, without expectations or commitments.

It’s just great. Not to mention it allows YOU to set the pace you proceed at.

Don’t Push

Now, this isn’t something you ALWAYS do. If a girl is out with her friends you don’t want to impose – in fact, for that reason you should always set a time limit when you’ve started talking with a woman. “I have to get back to my friends in a few minutes, but before that…” or “I have to leave soon, but first…”

If the lady you like seems ready to follow, then you can say “I’m going to xxx, it’s a good spot, you should come. SOMEONE needs to teach you what this city has to offer.” (By the way, this is a KILLER line if you’re not a local.)

Oftentimes the woman won’t be able to join you for whatever reason – could be she’s got plans already, maybe she doesn’t want her girlfriends gossiping, she might just be shy. That’s ok. You can still meet her – but here’s how you do it.

Don’t Be Ordinary

Don’t ask her to dinner. If possible, don’t even ask her in advance. A spontaneous meeting at a coffee shop or going shopping in an eclectic neighborhood with built-in conversation is great.

Your call should sound something like this: “What are you doing right now? I’m about to hit Java Joe’s, you should come and entertain me.” “I’m shopping for some clothes, and I’d like a woman’s opinion. What are you doing now?”

Make sure you’re going somewhere fun. The kind of place with strange knick-knacks all around so you’re conversation can naturally flow from your surroundings. Why do extra work when you can let the atmosphere help you?

Can’t Buy Me Love

THIS is key, and I’ll talk about it again and again. DON’T PAY. Especially with a woman you’ve just met. Paying says all the wrong things.

Women will read it different ways; here’s a few.

It says “I’m not interesting, so I’m bribing you to spend time with me.”

It says “I want to prove I’m good mate material by showing off my financial success.”

Or the corollary: “I’m insecure, so like a man with a small penis and a hot sports car, I’m trying to buy myself some confidence.”

Worse still: “I don’t really know you, but I think you’re hot so I’m going to try and buy my way into your jeans.”

Equally cringe-worthy: “I just paid for you. Now, what are you going to do for ME?”

Oh, let’s not forget the classic: “I’m used to paying for women so they’ll keep me company. Feel free to take advantage of that and bleed me for all I can handle, regardless of whether you like me or not.”

And of course, with a certain sensitive sect of ladies, you’re saying “I’m a sexist pig. Now cook bitch.”

In fact, can you say anything good by paying? Well, you could be saying “I’m a nice, generous man.” Great. We all know by now how sexy that is.

No Early Meals!

This is one of the biggest reasons to avoid the dinner date, at least to begin. In addition to creating an awkward social setting with someone you barely know, you basically force all sorts of uncomfortable thoughts about the money involved.

Coffee? Who cares about a coupla bucks?

Shopping? You’re not going to buy her something, are you? That smells of bribery worse than dinner, and you’ll just make her uneasy.

Avoid putting yourself in situations where the issue of payment comes up, and you’ll avoid this whole can of worms.

About Fairness And Female Relationships

One of the biggest mistakes men make in their relationships with women is projecting into them their male thinking.

One of the masculine features they usually project into women is fairness.

When this mistake comes back to byte their asses they do not understand what happened, they cannot understand why their girls come back to them in such a self-centered, selfish way in response to their fairness.

Well there is a simple reason fro it:: fairness is – in fact – an invention of men.

Men have been providers to women and children along all the thousands of years of Evolution so they feel terribly guilty if everything is not “shared in a fair way.”

This is the responsibility you feel when you know you have the power.

Women are different: their job was for thousands of years to invent ways to have the men give them and their children part of the preys of their hunting, for the seek of their survival.

Being fair was easy to men: they had the power and access to food and resources.Being fair was much more difficult for women under such conditions and could have impaired their own survival and the survival of their children.

It comes out that if you are fair to a woman she will draw a long list of very unpleasant conclusions about you and your personality of which these are the most important:

– She will think about that is you are fair to her it is because you are tired of hunting and want to rest and please her. In a word what is for you a good, noble thing is for her a weakness. She will draw the conclusion that you are less fit for survival than usual and give you the last hit. In fact if you are less fit for survival it may be the last time she gets your preys away from you.

– She will draw the conclusion that she is permitted to steal from you the prey of your hunting and believe me: she will.

Guys listen to me.

This is one of the main reasons for the failure of your relationships with your wives and your girlfriends: if you look backward there was a moment where you started to feel:”This is not fair, I am more powerful, I should raise her at my level”.

Soon after you wondered why you get absolutely no “thank you” from her and why she seems to want more and more and more out of you.

Guys tell me the truth: each one of you has been in his marriage or relationship with a woman in the point where he has to ask from himself:”What the fuck is going on here? The more I give to her the more she takes!”

This process went on until.. you were made weaker and she went out of the relationship with you with half of your property.

Or until you had to stop her from doing that in a pretty rough way.

No matter how balanced and sexy a woman is, no matter how great you and she get along she will have to be reminded not to be selfish. She is incapable of what you guys call “altruistic” behavior toward her same-age partner.

She can only be “altruistic” toward her children.

That doesn’t mean you can’t teach her how to behave to relate with you in a different way. What you need to take out of your mind is that you will be able at a certain point to have her internalize fairness. That will never happen.

When a male perceives himself in a situation in which he is taking advantage of the other person, he tends to feel guilty

He either constructs psychological defenses that allow himself to continue in the one-sided business in which he gains at the other person’s expense or, he somehow goes about increasing the gain for the other person while reducing his own until that point at which he feels things are “fair” or “equal” again.

In other words, he somehow tries to build an altruistic balance.

When a female, on the other hand, perceives herself to be involved somehow in a one-way relationship, she recognizes it as such but then doesn’t take the next step. Instead, her typical response is to attempt to perpetuate the situation, cause it to continue, figure out how to make sure she continues to get that stuff.

It isn’t nasty behavior from her; it is, simply, her own instinct to preserve herself. When her children get messed up she sacrifices herself; but not before that time. Well maybe some modern women not even when their children get messed up.. but those are extreme cases.

So if you set yourself in a relationship with a woman in the position of being “fair” to her in everything she will take out of you everything, even the last penny. Instead the position you need to take towards her is the one of constantly teaching her how to give you things in return for what you are giving to her. You have to teach her that whatever you give to her is not for free. You need to teach her fairness and altruism.

When you do this you achieve her respect: you are showing her that you can hunt around and also hunt her.

How you do that on daily basis? Like this:

– Your leadership over a woman is not for free. Every time you lead her you need to communicate / sub-communicate that you do that only if you are treated well and get something in return. If she stops giving you stop leading. Verbalize this at need.

– Be specific in asking things from her. Women like to take care of you. You can be specific about how you want her to make love with you, in which way you want to be touched, tell her openly what pleases you sexually.

– You can be specific in regard on how you want her to behave socially, how you want her to dress, how you want her to come close to you, of which subjects you want her to talk with you and so on.

When you teach her to give things back to you in return for your existence in her life you are behaving with her like her Prince. Women love to be devoted to Princes because they are usually the best hunters.

Instead if you get into the downward spiral of giving her all what you have for the sake of fairness you will be taken into a black hole, her attraction and respect for you will go down and you will finally lose her.

She will think that you are pleasing her because you want to rest and stop hunting and will behave accordingly by taking all what remains of your prey out of you. An alpha male cannot rest. That is an illusion. If you are alpha you know that you can rest only in your grave.

Put your energy into business, pick-up, seduction and never enter a relationship where you are being made weaker !

To be able to understand the deep differences in psychology between you and women is a very important skill.

If you are a single man willing to seduce women to get a wonderful girlfriend.

Or a husband willing to make his own wife happy in the relationship.

Or a playboy willing to have a lot of fun.

7 Signs that she is a Fraud

If you are looking for love and marriage abroad, it is very simple to get it right, believe me! There are thousands of honest, sincere women who will be genuinely interested in YOU!

But after you are meeting a nice girl that seems to be right for you make sure the person you are talking to is FOR REAL.

Frankly, looking for a partner abroad is not any different than any other search – search for a house, a second-hand car, or whatsoever, in one simple yet important detail: there will always be people that will try to take advantage of you.

The perception that you have built about dating scams can make you be cautious and suspicious all the time! That is even worse. Chances are you will make the same mistakes as other guys and destroy what was a really good and honest relationship – just because of being paranoid about scammers.

But what if I tell you that there are some specific signs that can make you solve the enigma of sincerity in your relationship and find out that the person you were corresponding with is not who she said she is?

1. Money is a key object to know a scam. At some point she begins to ask for money, frequently asking that it be transferred through wire services. She commonly states that the money is needed to help resolve a family tragedy or arrange for a trip to the United States. A copy of a fraudulent U.S. visa is sometimes attached to prove good intentions.

Beside this, there are other subtle signs that can make you be suspicious from the first e-mails she is sending you.

2. The most prominent is the fact that scammers don’t really read your letters. They don’t remember what you have written – actually, they don’t relate to the content of your letters at all. They don’t answer your questions.

3. Things move very fast, and she falls in love with you within 1-5 letters. Those letters she send to you could be sent to anybody: “her” letters are pure monologue that becomes more and more obsessed with “her love” to you and her desire to be together with you despite of everything that separates you.

4. She doesn’t want to provide you with her phone number pretending that she doesn’t have a phone or that she didn’t speak English. Paper can bear anything, you know that. But even phone conversation can give you more clues of what’s really going on (though men usually tend to misinterpret subtle signs excusing them by the language barrier).

5. Your name usually appears only once, or does not appear at all in the correspondence she is sending to you. She uses “darling”, “sweetheart”, “my love” and so on instead, because she is probably afraid not to mix the names of her victims or is sending the same messages to all of them only changing the names.

6. She lets you know from the very beginning that she is a student or how little she earns, including the size of her salary even though you never asked about it. But she never asks about the state of your finances – neither uses the word “financially secure” in her description of the prospective partner.

7. She writes you almost every day (keeps sending you photos even if you did not ask for) and in her letters she talks a lot about trust, honesty and sincerity. 🙂

So of course you must be aware of the fact that there are some individuals out there who may try to extract from you some amounts in cash, but remember that not all pretty girls you are meeting online are swindlers. Many men who were looking for a foreign wife, and met a wonderful girl without problems, are very surprised to find information about scams – they did not know that such a thing exists!

It is you who takes the choice and the risk.

Enjoy but don’t get fooled.

Alpha Male And Nurturing love

As alpha male if you let a woman nurture you what will happen is that it will destroy her sexual desire towards you and also her respect towards you will die sooner or later.

A woman can love basically in two ways:

  • Adult Love
  • Nurturing Love

Nurturing love is an instinct. As such it is stronger than her will. In a word: women are hardwired to nurture. This instinct is meant to have children grow up safely.

Nature is sometimes a bitch. Instincts are very 강남오피 primitive brain features and they are meant to overcome our conscious will. Sometimes they direct themselves there, where they should not.

As alpha male if you let a woman nurture you what will happen is that it will destroy her sexual desire towards you and also her respect towards you will die sooner or later.

A good example of how a real male relates to his own weaknesses is from the life of Julius Caesar. He suffered of terrible headaches and he treated them by.. long, strenuous marches with all the weathers.

As alpha Male your destiny is to protect other people and live your life without being nurtured too much. You are alone with that job. You should not fear death and sickness. You should cope without nurturing.

Having said that we can distinguish two group of women in 강남오피 regard of how they express nurturing love.

The HSE (High self-esteem ) woman is very often not completely conscious of what she is doing when she is nurturing someone – there are of course exceptional women who have a full touch into their instincts but they are rare. When a HSE woman nurtures someone her nurturing is full of joy and positive frames. She enjoys it fully and it is for her a happy activity. Another feature of the HSE woman is that she will lose very fast her love and interest in an adult male if he lets her nurture him too much. Her nurturing is made for children and people who are weak and sick not for her big guy.

The LSE (Low self-esteem ) woman exhibits what I call malignant nurturing. You can recognize malignant nurturing by the fact that it is full of negative, depressive frames and tends to castrate the male early on by demonstrating that: ”You can큧 cope without my nurturing” and soon after: ”You are not a real man because you need me so much.” either said straightly or sub-communicated. This is especially a feature of LSE LD (Low self-esteem low sexual drive ) women.

How a healthy alpha male relates to nurturing? Simple: that is stuff for children, not for him.

One feature of some women is that they will very often feel ”offended” or ”uneasy” if a guy who enters a relationship with them does not let them nurture him.

Keep your positions then: don큧 let her do it to you. You need to live your life by being totally undependent from the need for nurturing. You do not need to be extreme in refusing nurturing: sometimes it is nice to be offered a cup of coffee or measured temperature when sick but the overall frame should be: a big man does not need nurturing!

Effects of nurturing on sexuality and respect:

  • If a male lets his woman nurture him too much what will happen is that the sexual desire of this woman and her respect for him will die. Period.
  • An alpha male can remain alpha in a relationship with a woman by practicing adult love with her and kindly refusing of being nurtured. Period.
  • A beta male should never even start a relationship with a woman and/or a fatherhood before he has freed himself completely from the need of being nurtured. Period.